Why Are You Drinking Alcohol?
If you are reading this post, it’s possible that you are concerned with your drinking habits. Your life may be spiraling out of control, and rather than enjoying the occasional alcoholic drink, you have lost control and can no longer cope with the way things are. Maybe you no longer feel comfortable unless you have a few drinks. If so, it’s time to get honest and look at why you arrived here.
Why I used to drink:
I don’t know what your reasons for wanting a drink are but here are some of mine, chances are we are more alike than not;
- I was uncomfortable in social situations when sober
- I was uncomfortable with being alone
- I was trying to replace / forget negative thoughts and thinking patterns
- I wasn’t proud of my life
- I couldn’t cope with the life I had created
- I didn’t know how else to help myself
- It was easy to drink and temporarily forget what was bothering me
- Having a few drinks meant relief
- I had created a habit that was difficult to acknowledge and break
- I didn’t have many hobbies or creative outlets
- I did what I had always done
- The people I knew pretty much did the same thing (possibly with different outcomes than me)
Why Is It So hard To Give Up Drinking Alcohol?
If you are a drinker, you will recognize that alcohol is weaved into most parts of your life; alcohol plays it’s part in your relationships with family, friends and colleagues, alcohol is probably part of all the traditions you take part in. You are sure to have many good memories centered around drinking, It’s hard to give those good times up, it feels like the end of the world.
Why Should You Give up Alcohol?
The problem usually rears its head over time and ultimately will leave you with a multitude of problems ranging from emotional, psychological, social, financial, and health, not to mention the impact on those around you, hurting those who are closest to you, the absolute worst of which is children.
What Can You Do About Your Drinking?
- See a doctor, push aside feelings of fear or embarrassment, there is medication available to help you, this wasn’t around when I quit drinking.
- Find a local AA meeting
- Speak to someone you trust and tell them you are struggling
- Download one of the many available Apps on your smartphone such as SoberGrid and others
- Get a counselor/therapist
- Increase the amount of exercise you are doing or start walking if you are currently doing nothing
- Read as much as you can about alcoholism
- Try some 30 day plans to quit drinking
- Don’t get discouraged if you relapse, just keep trying, every relapses teaches you something
- Check into a rehab facility if you think it’s too much to go it alone
- Write down how you wish your life looked
- Join online recovery forums for support
- Phone the AA hotline and speak to an actual person
- Think about your hobbies and interests and start indulging in those with the aim of spending less of your time drinking
Facts about Alcoholism around the world
You are not alone with your problem, read this from Wikipedia:
The World Health Organization estimates that as of 2010 there were 208 million people with alcoholism worldwide (4.1% of the population over 15 years of age). In the United States about 17 million (7%) of adults and 0.7 million (2.8%) of those age 12 to 17 years of age are affected. It is more common among males and young adults, becoming less common in middle and old age. It is the least common in Africa at 1.1% and has the highest rates in Eastern Europe at 11%. Alcoholism directly resulted in 139,000 deaths in 2013 up from 112,000 deaths in 1990. A total of 3.3 million deaths (5.9% of all deaths) are believed to be due to alcohol. It often reduces a person’s life expectancy by around ten years. In the United States it resulted in economic costs of $224 billion USD in 2006. Many terms, some insulting and others informal, have been used to refer to people affected by alcoholism including: tippler, drunkard, dipsomaniac, and souse. In 1979, the World Health Organization discouraged the use of “alcoholism” due to its inexact meaning, preferring “alcohol dependence syndrome”.”
Read everything on this blog
This site is packed with resources, references, personal stories, and comments from others experiencing similar problems, you can also read my journey over the last
seven years eight years.
What Can You Expect Living An Alcohol-Free Life?
- Less drama
- Better health
- Strength of character
- No hangovers
- Stronger relationships
- Better finances (if you save what you spent on drinking)
- Hope for the future
- Accomplishment – you can devote your time to something you have always had a stirring for; writing a book, studying, taking up a creative pursuit
- Respect from others
- You give your kids back their childhood – If you have kids
- You screw up less
- You feel good about yourself
Sobriety is difficult but the rewards are profound and far reaching
What it’s really like to get sober
You have to get over feeling like you have a boring life at times, there will be tears, pain, anger, dealing with every aspect of yourself good and bad, remembering all the things you have been drinking to forget, having to deal with reality, accepting that you are not like everyone else, you may face criticism from those who don’t want you to change or can’t accept who you become when you stop drinking. You may feel like absolute shit for a very long time but if you get help (there is a ton available for free and for a price), you may relapse and feel like a failure, you may feel like you can’t cope and will need to rely on AA, a group, a therapist, a doctor, you may need medication, you may need to go and have professional detox, you will need to educate yourself about alcoholism and learn strategies for building self esteem and confidence, you will need to find the will to live differently and dedicate your life to it whilst building a new one, you may lose friendships and other relationships. You may be ridiculed.
I did it
I know all of this to be true because I have been there and am still doing it. I think I have been able to do it because I really did want to change, I recognized my destructive behavior and the affect it had on me and those around me. Alcoholism is complex and sobriety is too, it takes you being honest with yourself, and sometimes that honesty takes a while to come.
Are You Ready To Make Sobriety Your Priority?
Do These Things Now!
- Make an appointment with a doctor to tell them you are struggling with an alcohol problem, find out the types of treatment that are being offered to help you, ask for a recommendation for a therapist who specializes in alcoholism.
- Find an A.A group locally or out of your local area if more comfortable and go to a meeting
- Find an online support group/forum and join it – There are even apps like Sobergrid that will immediately connect you with others
- Tell someone you trust and know will support you that you want to stop drinking and are going to get help now
- Buy books/audio/you tube content about alcoholism and consume it all
- Find a self help guru that you like and use them as a mentor, read the books, do the work
- Comment below to make the commitment real or write a commitment statement and sign it and out it somewhere safe.
If you are indecisive about it or making excuses because you have this if that to do, then be honest with your self.
If you don’t want to do it because you think you will just relapse anyway then know that most people attempt quitting things at least 3 times before they are successful at it, maybe this is one step closer to where you want to be.
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