The Benefits Of Being Sober


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When I first began writing in Recovery Princess, two of my first posts were about the advantages of being sober and 45 things you learn in the first 90 days of sobriety.

In the beginning of sobriety, almost immediately, you begin to notice the positive side of what sobriety brings to your life.

Throughout these early days, it is the small benefits that a newly sober person gets excited about. Waking up without a hangover for a whole week seems enough at times to make you want to jump out of bed and shout “Wow, this is great! I feel like a new person!”

As the months go by, there are other benefits of being sober which is why I wanted to write an updated post.

  • You notice that your mind seems clearer
  • You begin to think about new possibilities
  • The first seedlings of hope begin to sprout
  • You become more organized
  • You feel like you are on the right path to find real purpose and meaning
  • Life becomes a journey
  • People admire you and ask for your advice about how to get sober
  • Another benefit of being sober is that your problem solving ability returns. As opposed to turning to alcohol for strength or to help you deal with your problem, you are forced to rely on your natural ability to problem solve. This is huge! It is definitely tough the first few times but once you experience making it through a few of your problems without reaching for a drink, your confidence begins to restore, slowly but surely. You learn to face life’s situations and work through them using all that you have within you.
  • You begin to explore who you really are. Everything changes when you get sober. Being sober is truly a discovery of who you really are. Alcohol accentuates, creates and enhances aspects of your personality that are otherwise not present. In other words, you do, say and act differently when under the influence of alcohol. So when you quit alcohol, you will start to notice that are things that you do not enjoy as much as you used to. Your interests will start to change. This is because you are coming closer to who you really are, the natural you, the one without alcohol.
  • You start to create. Being sober for a period of time will lead you to do one of two things. You will either get very depressed and unable to accept this dramatic change to your lifestyle, which will lead you back to alcohol. Or, you will begin to create. A must read on this subject is the creative theory of recovery explained. In my opinion, creation is the only successful route to take. When you create something and get in touch with your creative side, you will begin to feel passion and purpose, this is essential in your sobriety.  At this time in my life, Recovery Princess is my creative outlet. It allows me to delve into my journey through sobriety, express myself, help and inspire others. Writing and doing research for Recovery Princess has been a huge benefit of being sober because is allowing me to explore my creative side. This of course is just one aspect of creation. What you create is entirely up to you. Do something different, try to figure out what you enjoy and do more of it. Read about subjects that interest you, work on creating a different lifestyle. The more you do this, the more of a good habit it will become. You will soon find that creation is a benefit of sobriety.

Another absolute must read is the addiction treatment guide, this is a monster of a post and  is jam packed with Frequently Asked Questions that you can soak up to help you through the process.

What benefits of sobriety have you experienced? Do you think there are any benefits to sobriety? Tell us what you think in the comments.

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44 comments for “The Benefits Of Being Sober

  1. March 26, 2009 at 4:20 am

    I definitely agree with everything here on your list, but this reminds me of something I read once regarding quitting smoking. It said “quitting smoking is it’s own reward.” That struck me as being pretty profound at the time because I was so wrapped up in my addiction.

    Sobriety = freedom. It is removing the chains of addiction. If that were the only reward, it would be enough.

    Thanks for this awesome post, gave me a bit of gratitude today!

  2. Elizabeth
    June 8, 2009 at 4:57 pm

    Quitting drinking has renewed my faith in the power of my mind (subconscous?). This time, I left no room for doubt or questioning, but decided to quit cold-turkey. My mind gets clearer every day and I am beginning to get excited about new possibilities again, like starting another business. Definitely worth the early pain!

  3. Madison
    June 8, 2009 at 6:35 pm

    Good for you! That is fantastic to hear, how long has it been for you? Are you going to A.A or are you doing this alone? Maybe you could share your story with us at “The Successfully Sober Project”

    I am approaching 1 year of sobriety after drinking for a very long time. The changes in my life have been huge in every area of my life. It certainly has not been easy but it feels good to learn how to live life properly and handle the good and the bad without numbing everything all the time. During the difficult times, I constantly ask myself what it is that I am supposed to learn about myself or life. This attitude has helped to get me through many times when I have contemplated picking up a drink again.

    Come back and visit often, we would love to hear of your progress and what is working for you.
    Madison

  4. chris
    June 10, 2009 at 8:49 am

    I too am at the 1 year stage and feel i have make a huge positive decision to stop hurting my life and amy family lives with my drinking. The neg. things that happen from drinking seem to go away, they are not there in my life weekly anymore. Yes there is still life problems but I feel good not to add to life problems by drinking.

  5. Madison
    June 10, 2009 at 8:20 pm

    Thanks for sharing with us & congratulations on your first year of sobriety. Keep coming back and let us know what is working for you. You can share your story with us here:

  6. Kas
    October 28, 2009 at 4:44 am

    Hi,

    I’ve just stumbled upon this site and would like to say I’ve found it very enlightening. I wouldn’t say I have a big problem with alcohol, i think its more the lifestyle i choose to live & the people around me where alcohol is a big part of their life. I’ve actually quit smoking (for the 8th time) but this time i’m not touching alcohol. It’s alcohol that leads to other things and has also raised issues in my private life. I’m determined to try this life of sobriety in order to take control of my life altogether. Reading all your comments gives me strength to carry on. Thank you :-)

  7. Madison
    October 29, 2009 at 3:32 pm

    Hi Kas,
    I am glad that you found this website helpful.!
    Keep coming back.
    Madison

  8. hal
    December 8, 2009 at 6:53 am

    Im with you Kas, drinking leads to smoking with me and have found its easier to quit both. I can’t believe the level of sleep I go into just minutes after I fall asleep. Sobriety is a drug all by itself. I have the craziest dreams about people in my past that I never had under the influence. Truck on sobriety!

  9. ashan
    January 14, 2010 at 10:42 pm

    just 4 days since i quit both together(alcohol and smoking) its real hard to get my mind away from it. :(

  10. Madison
    January 15, 2010 at 8:27 pm

    Hi Ashan,
    Good for you. I have been there and it is not easy. I planned out every day and made sure I was not around other drinkers and I had plenty of things to do that would hold my interest, reading, exercising, reading recovery stories, cooking, running. I still hard a very hard time but planning the day made it easier and left no room for wandering back into old habits. Good Luck, stay strong and read, read, read!

  11. wes
    March 24, 2010 at 3:43 am

    I’m sorry to write this, but I have reached this page searching for advice on becoming sober, but I dont drink much at all – i vaporize pot.

    This feeling you are explaining…….your mind becoming clearer, finding hope where there was none, exploring who you really are, becoming incredibly more creative…. it is the exact experience I have the moment I get high. Minus the organization part. lol.

  12. Madison
    March 25, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    I hear what you are saying Wes, but you shouldn’t have to smoke/vaporize pot to feel this way. It should be a normal state of being, one that lasts. Pot, alcohol or any other short fixes are exactly that, they only work temporarily; they are not a long term solution. I have the feeling that you are only getting the positive feelings for a short time otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for advice on getting sober.
    I love that I don’t need to take something to feel good anymore. I don’t have to rely on a drink to feel better than I felt before. Life is not a struggle anymore; it is more of interesting journey with a few bumps along the way.

  13. Juan
    August 13, 2010 at 10:06 pm

    Sobriety is a process and a transition in one’s life, from a cloudy day to a clear sky. It’s not simple or easy, from changing habits, people, places and things we used to do. You begin to understand that the path you have been on is headed towards a brick wall, and that if you do not change course, YOU WILL hit that brick wall. I am the recipient of 2 DUI’s and the process has not been a walk in the park both emotionally or financially. Since an Interlock device was installed in my vehicle, I have not consumed alcohol for about 3 weeks now, it feels good. My mind is clearing up faster than I expected and I have a lot of hope and motivation now. Your life is not worth wasting over damn alcohol and the consequences that come with its abuse, your life is priceless!

  14. vincent
    August 21, 2010 at 6:17 am

    ive been sober for 4 years already.its awesome!

  15. melissa
    June 12, 2011 at 8:30 pm

    My man and I have been sober for 18 months. It was the best decision I have ever made. Alcohol is a liar. It makes your life a scam. Bad luck and ill health abound. The majority of my family still drink heavily. They are delusional and their growth has been stunted. It’s hard and sad to be around them and I keep my opinions to myself most of the time. Sometimes, however, I feel like my silence condones the awful behaviors that are associated with drinking. Why do family members ignore or disregard what each other say even if it is calm, and loving and full of concern? It has become pointless to try to discuss their problem (s) with alcohol….I guess I can only get my point across through example. They can enjoy their endless 18 packs of bud and the violence, poverty, dysfunction, hopeless, dreamless, delusion that comes with it. If only I didn’t love them so much.

  16. Lisa
    June 13, 2011 at 11:26 am

    I am on Day 12 and I feel like crap. I am so emotional, which is a big problem because I have never dealt with my emotions sober before. I am depressed, tired, and cannot stop thinking about how much I want to just drink it all away. I am trying to face my problems, mostly relationship, head on but my thoughts are all over the place. I am on the verge of tears all the time. If I am not sad I am crabby. I became sober to save my life, but right now I just pushing everyone away and I am watching it go down the tubes – all within 12 days. I made myself a drink last night and it sat next to me for about 2 hours before I finally got up and dumped it down the drain. Shouldn’t that alone make me feel stronger? It just made feel sad and pathetic. I also feel lonely all the time now too. This just sucks!

  17. Madison
    June 18, 2011 at 12:01 pm

    Lisa,
    Reading your post reminds me of my early days in sobriety. My emotions, feelings, thoughts were in an absolute mess. In hindsight, I had no business even trying to unravel anything at that time. The absolute best thing I could do to get me through those terrible times were to furiously journal until I had emptied my mind completely. I would write everything that came to mind even if it didn’t make any sense or if it terrified me. I just had to get it all out. I would use my computer and then password protect a word document for security and peace of mind. The other absolute must was exercise. In the early days I took the most simple form of exercise which was to walk. Thankfully I lived near a very beautiful park which was never very busy and I would walk and walk for at least an hour. Every single time without fail, I would feel somewhat better.

    You didn’t drink the drink that you made, so pat yourself on the back. It has been a few days since you wrote this so maybe this has changed.

    One other thing, I armed myself with a ton of books about sobriety, success stories, horror stories all about alcoholism and overcoming addiction. I would also read books for relaxation and to keep my mind off how I felt.

    I hope this helps

    Thanks for your comment Melissa.

  18. Madison
    June 18, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    I hear you! I totally agree. It is great that you did this with your husband. That kind of support is unique. I was fortunate enough to have a husband who also quit drinking once I had made my decision. He did it to support me and I think he too knew that there was more to life than drinking, way more.

    Thankfully I do not have to be around many people who drink heavily. I am glad because I just see through it and I can’t stand the fakeness of it all. Some people can drink and enjoy themselves and I don’t mind them so much. It is the people who I know have problems and are using alcohol to numb things and because of their addiction that I find hard to be around. It is hard to tell people what you truly think, sometimes they just don’t want to hear it nor do they even believe that alcohol is the problem. I really haven’t been very forward with saying what I truly think to some of my friends who still drink. It is hard because you don’t want to have to lose the relationship but I guess really it is the right thing to do.

    Thanks for your comment.

  19. Jen
    July 13, 2011 at 1:27 pm

    Hi,

    I haven’t been sober that long, but love what I can look forward to!! Thanks Princess for the great news and yes, I have already begun to be more creative again and didn’t really even notice!!

    I made a list in my journal, because it was a struggle, especially to get started and deal with the restless sleep and with drawl: but then in no time, I was feeling great! It makes me wonder why I have been doing this so long to myself. In fact, I was at the point where if I didn’t stop, I was going to ruin the career that I worked so hard for.

    @Wes, I used to think drugs and alcohol made me creative too. And maybe at first they did. After awhile it was an illusion of creativity, I found anyways. I had ideas I thought were creative, or a feeling a well-being that didn’t last to the next day, or great ideas I was too hung over to execute. It took me a long time to be ready to quit! And I pulled the classic: Stopping drugs and starting my alcohol problem, which lasted about six years. At the time, I thought I was doing myself a favor. But now, I am ready to *actually be sober* and loving it! Who knew!?

    This list is not exhaustive! I will returning to it for my own use when I have the hard times.

    Why I love being sober

    *I save money, I don’t need to budget for booze and feel guilty about where the money “could have gone” instead
    *I save my liver
    *I don’t stay up all night when I am tired and drink
    *I don’t smoke like a fiend because drinking is boring and smoking gives me smoking I can do while I am drunk
    *I don’t wake up and wonder what I did, said, or where I ended up the night before
    *I fall asleep when I am tired, not because I can’t drink anymore and need to pass out
    *I remember to brush my teeth and wash my face before bed
    *I feel healthier
    *When I am not hung over I eat breakfast
    *When I am not hung over I am not late for my duties
    *I don’t smell bad from booze leaking out of my pores, hair and out my breathe
    *The whites of my eyes are more clear
    *I don’t have unexplained bruises in the morning
    *I don’t have to hide how much I drink
    *I don’t have to worry about the people at the liqueur store thinking I am a lush
    *I have less anxiety
    *I don’t feel drained all the time
    *I don’t have to hide my drinking at social events
    *I don’t worry if I have enough booze for the night
    *I get more done
    *My mood is more stable
    *I am more mentally sharp and prepared
    *I sleep better
    *I don’t have to worry about having the shakes in the morning
    *I don’t have to lie about how much alcohol I actually consumed the next day or lie to my doctor about the amount I do consume per week
    *I don’t have to feel guilty about how much I can drink
    *I don’t have to consider drinking early in the day to stop the shakes and “make me feel normal”
    *I don’t have to feel guilty about destroying my health and looks by booze
    *I don’t have to hang out with people I don’t like for company while drinking
    *I don’t have to worry about “someone important” seeing me out while I am drunk
    *I consume less calories now; and the calories I do consume are healthy
    *I can wake up and go for a jog
    *I can eat out at restaurants with-out worrying about the price of booze
    *I am not going to look “washed-up” when I am older
    *I will not develop the classic gait that long-term alcoholics have
    *I will not develop the classic red nose that long-term alcoholics have
    *I don’t have to justify the amount I drink to myself or others
    *I don’t have to worry about getting “too drunk” in respectful restaurants/events/functions
    *I don’t have to worry about killing my brain cells with booze
    *I can have intelligent conversations when ever I want and don’t have to waste my time with “drunk talk”
    *I don’t have to worry about booze ruining my career anymore
    *I don’t have to worry if where I am going is licensed to sell alcohol for me to have a good time
    *I don’t have to worry about the repercussions of bad decisions while drunk (i.e. Cheating, forgetting to use a condom, sleeping with an idiot, sleeping with someone who may have an STD, waking up and wondering who the hell is in my bed, getting into a car with a drunk driver, etc.)
    *I don’t have to worry about what the people I live with or neighbours think about the amount I used to vomit
    *I don’t have diarrhea in the morning anymore (Ya, I know, maybe TMI; but hey)
    *I don’t have to worry if I had too much to drink and now can’t drive, even just to the store or to meet friends
    *I feel like I know myself better now and actually have more fun
    *I don’t have a beer gut anymore

  20. Madison
    July 13, 2011 at 9:30 pm

    Hi Jen,
    Wow..what a list! I love it. You remind me of myself. Writing it all out and really thinking about the benefits of sobriety. I like your attitude. This is an awesome list. Thanks for sharing and good luck!
    Madison

  21. Jen
    July 14, 2011 at 11:44 am

    Thanks Madison,

    It was a struggle to finally be honest about the ugly parts of my excessive drinking. I am grateful you didn’t edit it, as some parts are fairly crude.

    The list came to be, because I was looking for a file on my computer and came across a lonely Journal entry hidden in the depths of my hard drive from Sept. 23, 2009. Most of the entry detailed on how I need to stop abusing substances and how “I need to learn to think like no one is listening.” In addition to admitting “Inside me is a very scared person who is still afraid of herself.” At the time of this journal, it was a step to even admit that much, even though I had no clue on how to change those things. I don’t think I even I realized the connection they had to substances.

    So, I am back to this site, because today is my day off and of course I am thinking that I should go out for a drink; but I know that won’t do me any good. So, I am sitting here, asking, “what do sober people do for fun?”

    In another post you mentioned that after sobriety “You start to remember who you were a long time ago before the alcohol gave you another personality.” It’s very true and this is a great opportunity to figure out who I was before …

  22. Madison
    July 15, 2011 at 6:50 pm

    I consistently find that the power of writing things down is enormous. Writing is how I began my sobriety journey. I had to write and write and write until I was just spent. It was the only place I felt that I could be free. Who else would listen to the ramblings that were going on inside my crazy mind back then. Writing is truly therapeutic. I don’t write as much as I used to but in the early days the process of writing saved me many a time.

    What do sober people do for fun? That is quite a question. It took a while for me to find my fun. I remember cleaning house, taking pride in what was around me, lot’s of cooking and reading. More than a few times I would go to the local Barnes and Noble and get a Chai Latte and browse the sections until something caught my eye..and it always did.

    Early sobriety was quite lonely in many ways. I found it difficult to be around other people especially if they were having a few drinks. I just did what I felt I could do and tried to be really kind to myself. It was too easy to judge myself…’I should be able to do this or that like normal people’..I did what I could. Exercise was a great outlet and learning how run and doing my first 5K within the first 6 weeks of my sobriety was a great motivator for me.

    ‘What do sober people do for fun’ ..live a normal life and enjoy it rather than hating doing everything without having a drink!

    It takes time, patience, faith, self reflection, introspection, support, lots of tears, moodswings, counselling, possibly medication, highs and lows, and education to name a few to embark on this new journey of life. When you get a moment or a day when you say to yourself ‘wow, life is good’, then you know you are making progress. It takes a while but it does happen!

    Although at times I feel my progress is like a snail’s, there are times like today when I realize how far I have come and get excited about what the future might hold.

    Keep going!

  23. James
    July 24, 2011 at 2:23 pm

    What a great site.

    I am on day 6 and am already seeing and feeling the benefits of not drinking. The first 4 days were very hard but already it has become easier. There is a long way to go and I haven’t been in a Pub (bar) yet since stopping which I’m a little worried about. I play music so I will be in one at some point. But…
    Positives already are, Sleeping better, clearer mind, i can remember waht I did the night before, easier and better decision making(big and small). And for the first time in years I feel positive about the future.
    I feel better just writing this and will definietly start to keep a journal. I can see why you recommend it madison. Another thing that clears your mind further.
    Great Comments from everybody and Thank you Madison.
    Good Luck to everyone!

  24. Madison
    July 24, 2011 at 7:20 pm

    Thank James.
    Congratulations on your sobriety! The changes you experience during the early days are quite radical.
    Keeping a journal will be a great source of comfort to you and over time will build your confidence in how you perceive sobriety.
    Also, when you think that there is no one who can understand you or console you, the written word won’t let you down!
    Thanks for your comment!

  25. meghan marie stemen
    August 7, 2011 at 7:17 pm

    today is my first day at starting my sobriety. i have been a bad alcoholic for years. i am only 28 yrs old. i am ready for this journey and i know it will be hard at first but i have amazing support from my true friends and family. i am very thankful for them. i will pray that i will have the strength to keep up my sobriety and have the willpower too.

  26. Madison
    August 7, 2011 at 8:45 pm

    Hi Meghan,

    The first thing I thought of when I read your post was your age. I was well past my 28th birthday when I decided to get sober. I don’t regret my past life but I do sometimes wish I got sober earlier. I admire you for having the wisdom to know that you need to make a major change in your life and get sober. Good for you. Lean on your friends and family when you need to, they will be an important part of your recovery. You are fortunate that you have them.

  27. Behic
    August 25, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    Great site thanks. My 3rd week…Biggest problem is ‘what to do’.Keeping a journal, reading and exercise was very helpful for me .My dog helped a lot. To have some drunk people around you after 2 weeks is great. You see them shouting, empty and rude talking which gives you the oppurtunity to see the adverse effects of alcohol. Good luck to everybody. Sparkling mineral water with lemon is a nice drink:)

  28. Nate
    September 18, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Excellent site Princess! I’m in my second week and I feel great! I’m 24 and started drinking at 12 years old. I feel guilty for wasting what should have been the best years of my life, but very optimistic because I now actually feel like an adult. Rural Nebraska is possibly the worst place for someone who is genetically at a disadvantage when it comes to alcohol, but now I’m seeing the beauty in the wide open spaces and endless sky. I’m actually crying tears of joy while I type this. I’m smiling! I’d like to share a story with everybody here.
    A turtle saved me. I was at my usual fishing spot, drunk and alone as usual. I’d seen this turtle there so many times that I named him Yertle. This particular day he swam right up to the waters edge and just sat there looking at me. I know it sounds crazy but it looked like Yertle felt pity for me. I felt pity for myself. Then it hit me, all this little guy needs to do is eat, drink water, and procreate and he will be happy. I started asking myself a million questions and realized that most problems in my life could be connected to alcohol. I haven’t had a drop since. God bless Yertle the turtle!

  29. Madison
    September 18, 2011 at 9:37 pm

    Love the Yertle the turtle story Nate! I have a mouse story but I am not ready to tell it yet…watch this space!!!!
    Nature sure can provoke powerful emotions within us. When I was drinking, there was so much that I was completely oblivious too or just took for granted. Now, I marvel at the beauty nature provides on a daily basis. The stars, the clouds, the seasons…it is all truly amazing.
    Let us know how you get on Nate. Thank you for your comment and cute story!

  30. Lisa Marie
    September 23, 2011 at 12:07 am

    Well Iv been sober of and on for like 6 years now, i went to rehab many times, NA meetings have read many books to understand why i keep repeating my cycle… Now i have been sober for 3 months and that is the longest time thus far. I started doing things a little different. Like working my steps honestly, not rushing them bc look where that got me know where. Now i feel great, I am running 3miles a day, going to church, going to meetings, prayn. Im no longer covering up who i really am my make up and trying to act like i have no problems bc I Do!!! The only thing im finding Difficult is i feel alone, bc all my friends that i have all go out and drink and club and i dont need to be around that but they dont understand the real me ] is i just know wanna be in that secene anymore… that thing they dont know this side of me bc i always act like i have my shit together. What i have realized since i have stop going out, my phone does not make a sound… makes me sad bc now I think WHERE THEY REALLY MY FRIENDS???? or just bar buddies. I dont know what to say to them anymore when they ask me to go out to the clubs. I dont like to lie. But also i dont wany everyone to know what i am going through NOTE TO SELF NEVER TRY Meth it will take your life and everything away from you. and now I have know one…. just feel alone. with no social life. but things have to get better bc im hoping the worst has past for good. thanks for the other post it really helped me to be honest with myself. bc i am not alone…. so thank you for sharing your storings keep them comming bc i just so happen to have the website pop up and started reading it and i has made me look at things a Little different. Keep comming back it works…. Remember time will take the pain away its not going to happen over night bc u did not bcome an addict overnight. We are human and all that matters is whom we become in the end then walking around with i shoulds coulda wouldas and pittin utself gets u know wher but using again… Love life and enjoy it bc u onlt get one. Good look everyone it keep up/ Progress Not Profection!! Love ya all this is a sickness that i wish apound know one. but Its better that dyning,,, Talke care

  31. Madison
    September 23, 2011 at 9:32 pm

    Thank you Lisa Marie. I congratulate you for continuing to give sobriety a try even after many failed attempts. I too tried to give up drinking many times before I finally gave up for good. (3 years so far and no relapse so far).

    I hear you when you talk about loneliness. I have been going through a phase where I am really focused on my relationships of the past and who I am today and what relationships I have today.

    I can not lie. It is hard work changing from being one way to another. ie, drunk to sober. Some days I long for the relief of a drink and the friendships that although were probably not as deep as I thought, I enjoyed the times we had because they were light hearted and fun with alot of laughter. BUT…..let’s be real here. The good times did not last and those days are done. I spent 17 long years drinking myself through life so the way I see it, I still need to put in at least another 14 years of sobriety before I can honestly tell whether sobriety sucks!

    Seriously, I think that sobriety is about building a new life. Building a new life doesn’t happen in a few months or even a few years. It takes a lifelong committment. We spent so much time drinking now it is time to spend time rebuilding ourselves and our lives and stop looking for instant gratification.

    I say all of this after having a rough day today. Even at 3 years I have rough days but good days FAR outweigh any rough days.

    I am glad you like the site.

    Thanks for your comment Lisa.

    I wish you all the best.

  32. Tes
    December 22, 2011 at 3:53 am

    Hi It’s about 3:00 in the morning and I’m struggling to get to sleep. I’m on day 5 five of being sober. I started drinking at 14 years old with my cousins. I was abused in so many ways its surprising I’m not crazy or dead. I moved to another state to start over with my boyfriend of 3 years. Once I got here I realized I have to get sober too. My mother is an alcoholic and that was hard to leave her. And my brother has been sober for one year. He also lives far away. So I need to do this for myself I cry all the time. My brain and stomach are asking me why don’t you want to drink. I’m a mess everyday but I know I can do this. I write in a journal its so great to express myself. I have a list of things I’m going to create. And tomorrow
    I’m going to my first Al-anon meeting to understand alcoholic family members. Than Ill see if Aa is something I really need to do. So keeping my Faith Love and Hope is what reminds me to be strong. I know today is hard but it will get easier.

  33. Gaston
    March 20, 2012 at 9:22 pm

    Hello, this is good stuff. Im working really hard to be sober. Ive tried a thousand times i swear. I would love to be able to say ive been sober for 10 years in the future. My only thing is finding the right people to be around. I get lonely so i go to the only people i know..

    My family parties. My friends do. It seems every girl i meet and am interested in does. I like gatherings where people are dancing/listening to music etc. im stuck in between electronic/hip hop/dance music. And calm relaxing instrumental music. I just dont want to be “boring” and judgemental all the time. I like having fun. I can have plenty of fun without drinking or drugs…but then im the boring one…because im alert. I feel like people want you to be “messed up” and unaware of your surroundings…so they dont feel judged by you and are free to do whatever they want…which is being “messed up”. With you. I dont know its really hard. I have a stable job, nice car, nice phone…so its not ruining my life…but i feel like its causing mr health problems…even if i dont do much.

  34. Ryan
    May 1, 2012 at 9:02 pm

    There is nothing in the whole world better, than making up your mind all own your own that you don’t want to drink booze anymore. As I write I am 92 days sober. It is not always easy, but well worth it. The “witching hours” come to me, and a voice in my mind will tell me “Go get some beer, a pack of smokes, lock yourself in your room, listen to music and think everything thru.” And all on my own, I make up my mind, that I don’t want to drink alochol anymore, I don’t want to hurt myself anymore. And I take a “creative” action, grab hold of some tools that were given me and work thru it. There is no feeling more rewarding for me right now, than overcoming the witching hours. For the first time in my life, I feel like, I dont have to drink anymore if I dont want too. And it is very empowering and exciting. Thank you so much for your blog, it helps me.

  35. Gemma
    June 22, 2012 at 2:40 am

    This site has given me the confidence to give up alcohol. I’m 28 yrs old and although I don’t drink every day, when I do I cannot stop and become such a disgusting person that I wake up mortified and want to hide in my bedroom all day. I had an episode last night and I ended up pushing my dad over who consequently broke two fingers. If you met me sober you wouldn’t believe that I had that aggression in me and I feel like a schizophrenic with my sober side and drunk side.
    When I really think about all the pain an upset in my life it all comes back to booze. I have seen it destroy my parents and make people do such horrid things. I used to love drinking a bottle of wine and calling everyone for a chat. But by the morning I wouldn’t remember the last conversations I had. My husband has just been diagnosed with bipolor and has given up drinking and smoking as part of his therapy.
    So in many ways it’s the perfect time for me too. I want to be the Caring, loving Gemma that people know when I’m sober. I cannot wait to stop wasting days with a hangover. I can’t wait to get back in to my art and painting and I cannot wait to feel proud of myself!

  36. Isla
    June 29, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    Thank you for creating such a positive site! I’m currently going through the first stages of alcohol withdrawl so a reminder of all the good things I have to look forward to is a bit of a lifeline :-)

  37. Ryan
    August 4, 2012 at 9:27 am

    I’ve been sober for 3 weeks now, and I feel amazing! My life had become so unmanageable. I tried committing suicide with an overdose of heroin, but was found by a homeless woman and revived. I’m an alcoholic and an opiate addict. After coming to I thought about how priceless life is and about my beautiful children and decided I wanted to live. I left the city I was in to get away from the people and places. The withdrawals were horrible, but now I feel amazing. I’ve been exercising, reading the Big Book, Osho, and Daily Meditations. I’ve been going to meetings and even got a new job. I feel like if I’m not marching towards sobriety, I’m marching right towards another drink/shot of heroin. I am so sick of creating a hunger for something that we don’t need (cigarettes, alcohol, drugs etc). In Buddhism, desire and ignorance are said to lie at the root of suffering. By desire, Buddhists refer to craving pleasure. I am so happy to be alive, and as long as I stay sober, I know that everything will be fine. []Deace

  38. Madison
    August 4, 2012 at 10:21 am

    Wow. Thank you so much for sharing. You are an inspiration. Your new lease on life is incredible and I congratulate you!!!

    Stay with the path.

    It would be wonderful if you keep sharing here.

    Thanks again.

  39. Cathleen Vitale
    August 30, 2012 at 7:57 am

    After drinking for over 40 years, I quit “cold turkey” almost 14 months ago.I was sick of drinking and got to a point that I wanted to be more healthy, etc.
    What an eye opener being sober is! The best word to describe being sober is FREEDOM!
    I was always the life of the party and continue to be….just sober.
    I am glad to have found this blog site.

  40. August 30, 2012 at 9:26 am

    Welcome Cathleen!
    Congratulations on your sobriety. I love that you are still the life of the party! Our true essence is still there when sober… it just takes a while for us to find it!

  41. Marina
    September 2, 2012 at 6:41 pm

    I am somewhat new to this only 2 months I’ve been sober but what a difference I definitely makes.i feel more happy I can be more honest with the ones I hurt the most.i am young yet and still have a lot to learn
    But the biggest thing I’ve learned so far is sobriety is the most meaningful thing in my life right now without it I’d have nothing no family to go home too no job no roof over my head no vehicle nothing I would have it all gone in a blink of and eye.I feel proud of myself that I made mistakes because that only teaches you to become a better person.

  42. September 4, 2012 at 8:00 am

    Welcome!
    Good for you Marisa!

  43. Stewart
    July 23, 2013 at 6:59 am

    Yes being sober is for me today the only way to live. Being sober has given me the ability to work,study,eat healthy food,exercise,meditate,laugh,save money and keep my apartment immaculately clean I am 49 years old and being sober also makes me do a brisk run along the beach at sunrise in the summertime.

  44. July 29, 2013 at 9:02 pm

    See everyone? There are very big benefits to being sober! I think I like the “brisk run along the beach at sunrise in the Summertime”, although even sobriety hasn’t made me a naturally early riser yet!
    It sounds like you have made a good life for yourself now.
    I have just passed 5 years of sobriety and I really am enjoying where I am at right now. I enjoy clean living way more than I ever could of imagined.
    Thanks for letting us know how sobriety is working out for you.

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