Comments for Stop Drinking Alcohol by Recovery Princess http://recoveryprincess.com Quit Drinking Alcohol and Enjoy Sobriety Wed, 02 May 2012 04:02:43 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on The Benefits Of Being Sober by Ryan http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/the-benefits-of-being-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4169 Ryan Wed, 02 May 2012 04:02:43 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=582#comment-4169 There is nothing in the whole world better, than making up your mind all own your own that you don't want to drink booze anymore. As I write I am 92 days sober. It is not always easy, but well worth it. The "witching hours" come to me, and a voice in my mind will tell me "Go get some beer, a pack of smokes, lock yourself in your room, listen to music and think everything thru." And all on my own, I make up my mind, that I don't want to drink alochol anymore, I don't want to hurt myself anymore. And I take a "creative" action, grab hold of some tools that were given me and work thru it. There is no feeling more rewarding for me right now, than overcoming the witching hours. For the first time in my life, I feel like, I dont have to drink anymore if I dont want too. And it is very empowering and exciting. Thank you so much for your blog, it helps me. There is nothing in the whole world better, than making up your mind all own your own that you don’t want to drink booze anymore. As I write I am 92 days sober. It is not always easy, but well worth it. The “witching hours” come to me, and a voice in my mind will tell me “Go get some beer, a pack of smokes, lock yourself in your room, listen to music and think everything thru.” And all on my own, I make up my mind, that I don’t want to drink alochol anymore, I don’t want to hurt myself anymore. And I take a “creative” action, grab hold of some tools that were given me and work thru it. There is no feeling more rewarding for me right now, than overcoming the witching hours. For the first time in my life, I feel like, I dont have to drink anymore if I dont want too. And it is very empowering and exciting. Thank you so much for your blog, it helps me.

]]> Comment on First 90 Days of Sobriety Revisited.. by louise http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2010/11/first-90-days-of-sobriety-revisited/comment-page-1/#comment-4168 louise Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:51:44 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=1862#comment-4168 Today I am feeling tired and irritable today is day 16! My chest feels tight, I feel angry at the thought of never drinking again. Today I am feeling tired and irritable today is day 16! My chest feels tight, I feel angry at the thought of never drinking again.

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by louise http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4167 louise Tue, 17 Apr 2012 06:45:50 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4167 So I went out for my birthday dinner, we drank sparkling water and I even turned down a birthday drink! What I really hate is trying to hide why you are not drinking alcohol, as its so shameful I don't want people to know how weak I had become. Anyway its day 16, and my skin is looking clearer, I am sleeping better and can work much easier! Plus I must have saved atleast £60 since I quit 2 weeks ago. The crave to drink when I get home from work has gone, but I have a function on Wednesday so back to the shameful lies then.. So I went out for my birthday dinner, we drank sparkling water and I even turned down a birthday drink! What I really hate is trying to hide why you are not drinking alcohol, as its so shameful I don’t want people to know how weak I had become.
Anyway its day 16, and my skin is looking clearer, I am sleeping better and can work much easier! Plus I must have saved atleast £60 since I quit 2 weeks ago. The crave to drink when I get home from work has gone, but I have a function on Wednesday so back to the shameful lies then..

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by louise http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4165 louise Mon, 16 Apr 2012 17:33:30 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4165 Hi today is my birthday, I have been sober for 2 weeks after realizing that my daily glass of wine was a bottle habit which I tried to sneak in before the family got home! The final straw was falling a sleep at a dinner party by 7:30, the shame was too much and I actually wished I had never woke up! I have replaced wine for running.. Watch this space Hi today is my birthday, I have been sober for 2 weeks after realizing that my daily glass of wine was a bottle habit which I tried to sneak in before the family got home! The final straw was falling a sleep at a dinner party by 7:30, the shame was too much and I actually wished I had never woke up! I have replaced wine for running.. Watch this space

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by louise http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4164 louise Mon, 16 Apr 2012 17:28:59 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4164 Hi its my birthday today, and I have not had a drink for 15 days! My dependency was causing problems with my husband, work, friends basically I was loosing control and started secret drinking, which gave me the biggest buzz than all and hiding the fact that I had a bottle of wine before anybody got home! Of course my husband knew but didn't know how to approach things! The final straw was falling asleep at a di her party by 7:30pm! The embarassment was too much, so that's it now! No turning back, I have replaced wine for running and tonight we are out for dinner, it will be my first birthday without booze for 20 years... Hi its my birthday today, and I have not had a drink for 15 days! My dependency was causing problems with my husband, work, friends basically I was loosing control and started secret drinking, which gave me the biggest buzz than all and hiding the fact that I had a bottle of wine before anybody got home! Of course my husband knew but didn’t know how to approach things! The final straw was falling asleep at a di her party by 7:30pm! The embarassment was too much, so that’s it now! No turning back, I have replaced wine for running and tonight we are out for dinner, it will be my first birthday without booze for 20 years…

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by jon http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4159 jon Fri, 06 Apr 2012 01:39:16 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4159 Ahh been a 35 to 40 beer a week healthy drunk for years. Never a sloppy drunk and once I go over 6 beers I usually go home and sleep. I have always worked out, drank lots of water, sat in saunas, ate good and took supplements. The next morning headaches and general slowness at 50 prompted me to drop this habit and have felt great. Dropped 20 pounds, and I am beyond the point of really caring what others think if I don't drink with them.. I just laugh and say ones too many and 15 is not enough. Damn bars charge more for bottled water than draft beer..go figure. Never really had any serious effects of quitting, slept good, ate more, and turned up my exercise routine. Also, was on the toilet seat the first week blowing out the toxins I guess. Ahh been a 35 to 40 beer a week healthy drunk for years. Never a sloppy drunk and once I go over 6 beers I usually go home and sleep. I have always worked out, drank lots of water, sat in saunas, ate good and took supplements. The next morning headaches and general slowness at 50 prompted me to drop this habit and have felt great. Dropped 20 pounds, and I am beyond the point of really caring what others think if I don’t drink with them.. I just laugh and say ones too many and 15 is not enough. Damn bars charge more for bottled water than draft beer..go figure.

Never really had any serious effects of quitting, slept good, ate more, and turned up my exercise routine. Also, was on the toilet seat the first week blowing out the toxins I guess.

]]> Comment on Day 6 of 30 Days to a Better Life in Sobriety by b http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2012/02/day-6-of-30-days-to-a-better-life-in-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4157 b Sun, 01 Apr 2012 20:59:43 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2397#comment-4157 where are the rest of the days? this is so helpful! where are the rest of the days? this is so helpful!

]]> Comment on Will I Lose My Friends If I Get Sober? by Jill http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/10/will-i-lose-my-friends-if-i-get-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4154 Jill Thu, 29 Mar 2012 04:08:18 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2314#comment-4154 You will change your circle of friends once you start getting sober. Sober alcoholics say, 'We don't get sober to entertain drunks' You will find that with many friends all you had in common was the alcohol. Once you are not drinking there is nothing more you have in common. Sad but true. You will change your circle of friends once you start getting sober. Sober alcoholics say, ‘We don’t get sober to entertain drunks’

You will find that with many friends all you had in common was the alcohol. Once you are not drinking there is nothing more you have in common. Sad but true.

]]> Comment on The First Year of Sobriety by Denise Desaulniers http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/05/my-sobriety-the-first-year-of-sobriety-so-far/comment-page-1/#comment-4153 Denise Desaulniers Fri, 23 Mar 2012 03:20:40 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=825#comment-4153 I'm 2 weeks sober and clean. I had to finally end a toxic relationship that was all about partying. I almost died from loss of blood from drinking too many shots. I lost my profit sharing to drugs andI hope so badly that I can stay sober this time-It IS very boring right now, and lots of places I can't go any more. Hope it gets better! I’m 2 weeks sober and clean. I had to finally end a toxic relationship that was all about partying. I almost died from loss of blood from drinking too many shots. I lost my profit sharing to drugs andI hope so badly that I can stay sober this time-It IS very boring right now, and lots of places I can’t go any more. Hope it gets better!

]]> Comment on The Benefits Of Being Sober by Gaston http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/the-benefits-of-being-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4151 Gaston Wed, 21 Mar 2012 04:22:49 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=582#comment-4151 Hello, this is good stuff. Im working really hard to be sober. Ive tried a thousand times i swear. I would love to be able to say ive been sober for 10 years in the future. My only thing is finding the right people to be around. I get lonely so i go to the only people i know.. My family parties. My friends do. It seems every girl i meet and am interested in does. I like gatherings where people are dancing/listening to music etc. im stuck in between electronic/hip hop/dance music. And calm relaxing instrumental music. I just dont want to be "boring" and judgemental all the time. I like having fun. I can have plenty of fun without drinking or drugs...but then im the boring one...because im alert. I feel like people want you to be "messed up" and unaware of your surroundings...so they dont feel judged by you and are free to do whatever they want...which is being "messed up". With you. I dont know its really hard. I have a stable job, nice car, nice phone...so its not ruining my life...but i feel like its causing mr health problems...even if i dont do much. Hello, this is good stuff. Im working really hard to be sober. Ive tried a thousand times i swear. I would love to be able to say ive been sober for 10 years in the future. My only thing is finding the right people to be around. I get lonely so i go to the only people i know..

My family parties. My friends do. It seems every girl i meet and am interested in does. I like gatherings where people are dancing/listening to music etc. im stuck in between electronic/hip hop/dance music. And calm relaxing instrumental music. I just dont want to be “boring” and judgemental all the time. I like having fun. I can have plenty of fun without drinking or drugs…but then im the boring one…because im alert. I feel like people want you to be “messed up” and unaware of your surroundings…so they dont feel judged by you and are free to do whatever they want…which is being “messed up”. With you. I dont know its really hard. I have a stable job, nice car, nice phone…so its not ruining my life…but i feel like its causing mr health problems…even if i dont do much.

]]> Comment on Day 6 of 30 Days to a Better Life in Sobriety by Madison http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2012/02/day-6-of-30-days-to-a-better-life-in-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4086 Madison Sun, 19 Feb 2012 04:15:23 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2397#comment-4086 Oh my gosh! Thanks so much for your comment. You must have read my mind. I have every intention of finishing this but I have to say that it may well be in 90 days!!! I have done it again....over committed myself and am trying to stretch myself to thin. I really appreciate your kind words. I will be back with Day 7 very soon. So pleased we all understand each other! Glad Recovery Princess is helpful to you. It is what keeps me going! Oh my gosh! Thanks so much for your comment. You must have read my mind. I have every intention of finishing this but I have to say that it may well be in 90 days!!!

I have done it again….over committed myself and am trying to stretch myself to thin.

I really appreciate your kind words. I will be back with Day 7 very soon.

So pleased we all understand each other!

Glad Recovery Princess is helpful to you. It is what keeps me going!

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by Stonesthrow http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4082 Stonesthrow Fri, 17 Feb 2012 11:59:04 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4082 Drinking (for alcoholics)means being stripped of your dignity; your sanity and anything else you hold dear when sober. It has no conscience and you will have none neither. It's a bitter, degrading and exhaustingly painful lesson to learn and only you will know when you have learned...until then drink is the master. It wants and needs to keep you alone, isolated where your only true love will be yourself and it........but there is another way. Stay sober and get back in the driving seat. Drinking (for alcoholics)means being stripped of your dignity; your sanity and anything else you hold dear when sober. It has no conscience and you will have none neither. It’s a bitter, degrading and exhaustingly painful lesson to learn and only you will know when you have learned…until then drink is the master. It wants and needs to keep you alone, isolated where your only true love will be yourself and it……..but there is another way. Stay sober and get back in the driving seat.

]]> Comment on Day 6 of 30 Days to a Better Life in Sobriety by Kristy http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2012/02/day-6-of-30-days-to-a-better-life-in-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4075 Kristy Wed, 15 Feb 2012 16:08:12 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2397#comment-4075 Madison, I understand what you have said about the challenge and fear? of committing to something for 30 consecutive days. If we don't have the right mindset going into it, it can be a set-up because a lot of us will use a missed day as a reason to beat ourselves up over not being "perfect." I'm here to tell you that I would rather read and practice your 30 Days To a Better Life in NINETY days, than have you stop what you are doing because you don't think you did it well enough. You have a lot of wisdom. You are helping me. Thank you. I look forward to reading Day 7 and beyond.. Sincerely, Kristy Madison,
I understand what you have said about the challenge and fear? of committing to something for 30 consecutive days. If we don’t have the right mindset going into it, it can be a set-up because a lot of us will use a missed day as a reason to beat ourselves up over not being “perfect.” I’m here to tell you that I would rather read and practice your 30 Days To a Better Life in NINETY days, than have you stop what you are doing because you don’t think you did it well enough. You have a lot of wisdom. You are helping me. Thank you. I look forward to reading Day 7 and beyond.. Sincerely, Kristy

]]> Comment on My Life Today Sober by jayne mitchell http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/01/my-life-today/comment-page-1/#comment-4052 jayne mitchell Mon, 09 Jan 2012 04:20:42 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=1955#comment-4052 what an interesting subject! i have suffered alchlism for years but a functioning on cos of my strenghth that was really my weakness! ried rehab and AA to no avail! i have been a chrstian for many years but a luke warm one! now i am back in church and am living by the fruits of the spirit of self control! there are clear instructions in the bible that tell us through fasith and peseverence with the hol spirit we can conquer this! thankyou in the name of jesus! jayne x what an interesting subject! i have suffered alchlism for years but a functioning on cos of my strenghth that was really my weakness! ried rehab and AA to no avail! i have been a chrstian for many years but a luke warm one! now i am back in church and am living by the fruits of the spirit of self control! there are clear instructions in the bible that tell us through fasith and peseverence with the hol spirit we can conquer this! thankyou in the name of jesus! jayne x

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Sallyjo http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4051 Sallyjo Sun, 08 Jan 2012 02:50:44 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4051 Go to AA. People who think they have a drinking problem do in fact have a drinking problem. You need support and fellowship. No website can give you the tools to get to know yourself and this insidious disease PLEASE GO TO AA TOMORROW Go to AA. People who think they have a drinking problem do in fact have a drinking problem. You need support and fellowship. No website can give you the tools to get to know yourself and this insidious disease PLEASE GO TO AA TOMORROW

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by Austin http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4050 Austin Wed, 04 Jan 2012 18:32:09 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4050 Day 1 and i feel like crap,as usual.ive been a closet drinker for years and my wife still dose not know about my habit. im scared to tell her because i dont want to hurt her. i have to do this alone and save her the disapointment and anger. hope this goes well. Day 1 and i feel like crap,as usual.ive been a closet drinker for years and my wife still dose not know about my habit. im scared to tell her because i dont want to hurt her. i have to do this alone and save her the disapointment and anger. hope this goes well.

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by RW http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4047 RW Sat, 31 Dec 2011 16:33:57 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4047 I am on day 5 without alcohol. Mainly, I have been afflicted by sleeplessness and some anxiety (chiefly about what life will be like now without booze). Beer was my drink of choice, and good beer. I fear missing the taste of hops. Also, last night I awoke with some slight tremoring in my arms which lasted for about five minutes. For me, the greatest obstacle has been the cravings. Already, though, I can feel my mind clearing and my emotional stability returning. I am happy to be on this road now (no AA for me; just me vs. the poison), and I wish the best of luck to everyone struggling with the demon rum! I am on day 5 without alcohol. Mainly, I have been afflicted by sleeplessness and some anxiety (chiefly about what life will be like now without booze). Beer was my drink of choice, and good beer. I fear missing the taste of hops. Also, last night I awoke with some slight tremoring in my arms which lasted for about five minutes. For me, the greatest obstacle has been the cravings. Already, though, I can feel my mind clearing and my emotional stability returning. I am happy to be on this road now (no AA for me; just me vs. the poison), and I wish the best of luck to everyone struggling with the demon rum!

]]> Comment on Socializing and Sobriety by MEG QUINN http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/socializing-and-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4045 MEG QUINN Fri, 30 Dec 2011 02:02:37 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=433#comment-4045 I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 8 MONTHS. I HAVE BECOME VERY ANTI-SOCIAL. ALL I WANT TO DO IS STAY HOME AND READ. WHEN I GO OUT TO DINNER WITH HUSBAND AND/OR FRIENDS, I AM BORED. I'M NOT TEMPTED TO DRINK, BUT I DON'T ENJOY MYSELF UNLESS I REALLY LIKE THE PEOPLE AND FIND THEM INTERESTING TO TALK TO. NONE OF MY FRIENDS ARE BIG DRINKERS. BUT I DON'T SEEM TO ENJOY VERY MANY OF THEM ANYMORE. I'M WORRIED ABOUT BECOMING A RECLUSE. I CAN'T BELIEVE HOW MUCH I RELIED ON ALCOHOL TO ENJOY MYSELF. I'M UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND ALMOST EVERYONE. WILL THIS EVENTUALLY SUBSIDE? IT ISN'T GETTING BETTER. I'M WORRIED. I HAVE BEEN SOBER FOR 8 MONTHS. I HAVE BECOME VERY ANTI-SOCIAL. ALL I WANT TO DO IS STAY HOME AND READ. WHEN I GO OUT TO DINNER WITH HUSBAND AND/OR FRIENDS, I AM BORED. I’M NOT TEMPTED TO DRINK, BUT I DON’T ENJOY MYSELF UNLESS I REALLY LIKE THE PEOPLE AND FIND THEM INTERESTING TO TALK TO. NONE OF MY FRIENDS ARE BIG DRINKERS. BUT I DON’T SEEM TO ENJOY VERY MANY OF THEM ANYMORE. I’M WORRIED ABOUT BECOMING A RECLUSE. I CAN’T BELIEVE HOW MUCH I RELIED ON ALCOHOL TO ENJOY MYSELF.
I’M UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND ALMOST EVERYONE. WILL THIS EVENTUALLY SUBSIDE? IT ISN’T GETTING BETTER. I’M WORRIED.

]]> Comment on The Benefits Of Being Sober by Tes http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/the-benefits-of-being-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4040 Tes Thu, 22 Dec 2011 10:53:30 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=582#comment-4040 Hi It's about 3:00 in the morning and I'm struggling to get to sleep. I'm on day 5 five of being sober. I started drinking at 14 years old with my cousins. I was abused in so many ways its surprising I'm not crazy or dead. I moved to another state to start over with my boyfriend of 3 years. Once I got here I realized I have to get sober too. My mother is an alcoholic and that was hard to leave her. And my brother has been sober for one year. He also lives far away. So I need to do this for myself I cry all the time. My brain and stomach are asking me why don't you want to drink. I'm a mess everyday but I know I can do this. I write in a journal its so great to express myself. I have a list of things I'm going to create. And tomorrow I'm going to my first Al-anon meeting to understand alcoholic family members. Than Ill see if Aa is something I really need to do. So keeping my Faith Love and Hope is what reminds me to be strong. I know today is hard but it will get easier. Hi It’s about 3:00 in the morning and I’m struggling to get to sleep. I’m on day 5 five of being sober. I started drinking at 14 years old with my cousins. I was abused in so many ways its surprising I’m not crazy or dead. I moved to another state to start over with my boyfriend of 3 years. Once I got here I realized I have to get sober too. My mother is an alcoholic and that was hard to leave her. And my brother has been sober for one year. He also lives far away. So I need to do this for myself I cry all the time. My brain and stomach are asking me why don’t you want to drink. I’m a mess everyday but I know I can do this. I write in a journal its so great to express myself. I have a list of things I’m going to create. And tomorrow
I’m going to my first Al-anon meeting to understand alcoholic family members. Than Ill see if Aa is something I really need to do. So keeping my Faith Love and Hope is what reminds me to be strong. I know today is hard but it will get easier.

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Lucy http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4036 Lucy Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:35:40 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4036 WFS link... http://www.womenforsobrietyonline.com/ WFS link…

http://www.womenforsobrietyonline.com/

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Lucy http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4035 Lucy Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:34:13 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4035 @ Dame... been there done that! I am at 6 months and I already feel soooooo much better. For me, I had to take what works and leave the rest. I am using a creative variety of ideas... AA, WFS. private therapy, mindfulness, and ACT. WFS has a website that can support you through those god awful early days. A good place to start. The spiritual river website is *excellent* Here is ACT/mindfulness/addictive behaviors information... http://www.mindfulrp.com/ You only have to do it *today*. @ Dame… been there done that! I am at 6 months and I already feel soooooo much better. For me, I had to take what works and leave the rest. I am using a creative variety of ideas… AA, WFS. private therapy, mindfulness, and ACT. WFS has a website that can support you through those god awful early days. A good place to start. The spiritual river website is *excellent*

Here is ACT/mindfulness/addictive behaviors information…

http://www.mindfulrp.com/

You only have to do it *today*.

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Madison http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4034 Madison Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:43:10 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4034 Hi Lucy, I am glad that you are getting something out of this website. Congratulations on 6 months, that is something to be extremely proud of. Good for you. I like the mantra! thanks for sharing. Hi Lucy,

I am glad that you are getting something out of this website. Congratulations on 6 months, that is something to be extremely proud of. Good for you.

I like the mantra! thanks for sharing.

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Madison http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4033 Madison Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:40:41 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4033 Hi, You must be feeling terrible right now. I hope you have been able to stay away from the alcohol. Guilt for sure will keep you sober for a day or so but not much longer than that. I have been there, the terrible actions of drunkeness especially when it involves your significant other is no fun at all when sober! Give yourself a break. As bad as it was, It is probably not as bad as your mind is making you think it is. The way I saw it when I felt like you and had the same realization as you that I was an alcoholic, was that suddenly I had to fix absolutely everything in that one very instant. I felt like it was the end of my world. Petrified, terrified, no clue how on earth I was going to take one foot forward into sobriety, guilt, anger, fear the list goes on and on. I would say that you have had a wake up call. This drunken episode has happenned and you can not take it back but you can use it to move forward. Seriously, if you are not an AA fan, then begin reading the "Spiritual River' website, that is packed with informative articles and comments by other people just like you and me. Trying to find a way out of alcoholism and into a better way of life. Then, get yourself a therapist, go and see a few different counsellors until you find one that you feel comfortable with. Educate yourself about alcoholism by reading. You say you have no goals, well I would say that having 3 kids doesn't really leave you with much time to ponder your own goals but this is all the kind of stuff that a good therapist can help you work through. Hang in there, keep writing, reading and using forums to communicate with others who can support you in this. Stay strong, don't be too hard on yourself, get some help and hang in there! Let us know how you get on. Hi,

You must be feeling terrible right now. I hope you have been able to stay away from the alcohol. Guilt for sure will keep you sober for a day or so but not much longer than that. I have been there, the terrible actions of drunkeness especially when it involves your significant other is no fun at all when sober! Give yourself a break. As bad as it was, It is probably not as bad as your mind is making you think it is.

The way I saw it when I felt like you and had the same realization as you that I was an alcoholic, was that suddenly I had to fix absolutely everything in that one very instant. I felt like it was the end of my world. Petrified, terrified, no clue how on earth I was going to take one foot forward into sobriety, guilt, anger, fear the list goes on and on.

I would say that you have had a wake up call. This drunken episode has happenned and you can not take it back but you can use it to move forward.

Seriously, if you are not an AA fan, then begin reading the “Spiritual River’ website, that is packed with informative articles and comments by other people just like you and me. Trying to find a way out of alcoholism and into a better way of life. Then, get yourself a therapist, go and see a few different counsellors until you find one that you feel comfortable with. Educate yourself about alcoholism by reading.

You say you have no goals, well I would say that having 3 kids doesn’t really leave you with much time to ponder your own goals but this is all the kind of stuff that a good therapist can help you work through.

Hang in there, keep writing, reading and using forums to communicate with others who can support you in this.

Stay strong, don’t be too hard on yourself, get some help and hang in there! Let us know how you get on.

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Dame http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4032 Dame Mon, 19 Dec 2011 05:15:56 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4032 Thank you, I am going through such a hard time and am using alcohol to mask my pain only I feel worse and am ruining my marriage. I am so out of control when I do drink. I sneak drink and I sneak smoke. Last night I blacked out at my husbands Christmas party he is so upset. I am 32 and have no goals. I have 3 kids. I think I hit my bottom. Holidays and stress coming I am going to want to get drunk and numb. I don't want to. This is scary for me, I just realized at 9:20 tonight I am an alcoholic Thank you, I am going through such a hard time and am using alcohol to mask my pain only I feel worse and am ruining my marriage. I am so out of control when I do drink. I sneak drink and I sneak smoke. Last night I blacked out at my husbands Christmas party he is so upset. I am 32 and have no goals. I have 3 kids. I think I hit my bottom. Holidays and stress coming I am going to want to get drunk and numb. I don’t want to. This is scary for me, I just realized at 9:20 tonight I am an alcoholic

]]> Comment on Get Sober – The First Week Of Sobriety by Dame http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/03/get-sober-the-first-week-of-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4031 Dame Mon, 19 Dec 2011 04:59:25 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=488#comment-4031 Hi, today I realized that I can not control myself when I drink. I become a totally awful person. I made a drunken fool of myself at my husbands Christmas party infront of everyone he works with. My dear sweet husband is so hurt by my actions and has told me tonight he will never take me to a function with alcohol again. I don't drink often but when I do at an event I loose all control. I have said I need to stop binge drinking and just cut back but tonight I realized I have a pattern of destructive behavior on alcohol. I love my family and the person I am sober. I am not an AA fan. Any advice for starting this road to alcohol abstinence without AA? Hi, today I realized that I can not control myself when I drink. I become a totally awful person. I made a drunken fool of myself at my husbands Christmas party infront of everyone he works with. My dear sweet husband is so hurt by my actions and has told me tonight he will never take me to a function with alcohol again. I don’t drink often but when I do at an event I loose all control. I have said I need to stop binge drinking and just cut back but tonight I realized I have a pattern of destructive behavior on alcohol. I love my family and the person I am sober. I am not an AA fan. Any advice for starting this road to alcohol abstinence without AA?

]]> Comment on A Sobriety Book Review ‘Finding Your Strength In Difficult Times’ by Lucy http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2009/07/sobriety-book-you-may-enjoy/comment-page-1/#comment-4030 Lucy Mon, 19 Dec 2011 02:27:40 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=1168#comment-4030 Agree... awesome book! Agree… awesome book!

]]> Comment on When the past meets present day sobriety by Lucy http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/12/when-the-past-meets-present-day-sobriety/comment-page-1/#comment-4029 Lucy Mon, 19 Dec 2011 02:25:47 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2338#comment-4029 Just checking in to say *THANKS*. I just now found you. I am 6 mo. sober and I am reading your current stuff and your archives and so much of it resonates for me. "Me too!" is all I can think! My mantra during rough times... ================================================ "BUT ALL WILL BE WELL, AND EVERY KIND OF THING WILL BE WELL." Julian of Norwich ================================================ Just checking in to say *THANKS*. I just now found you. I am 6 mo. sober and I am reading your current stuff and your archives and so much of it resonates for me. “Me too!” is all I can think!

My mantra during rough times…

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“BUT ALL WILL BE WELL, AND EVERY KIND OF THING WILL BE WELL.” Julian of Norwich
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]]> Comment on Will I Lose My Friends If I Get Sober? by littlemiss http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/10/will-i-lose-my-friends-if-i-get-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4028 littlemiss Fri, 16 Dec 2011 16:06:37 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2314#comment-4028 hi there - I am at week 6 and the thought of losing friends is what has kept me returning to alcohol - even tho i know i am so much happier without. i feel ready tho to shed people who are just there cos we shared a love of getting trollied. it's scary but maybe in a way we are lucky - if i had carried on drinking heavily i would not have perspective on who is/isn't with me as a true friend. hi there – I am at week 6 and the thought of losing friends is what has kept me returning to alcohol – even tho i know i am so much happier without. i feel ready tho to shed people who are just there cos we shared a love of getting trollied. it’s scary but maybe in a way we are lucky – if i had carried on drinking heavily i would not have perspective on who is/isn’t with me as a true friend.

]]> Comment on Proverbs 31 and Sobriety For Women by Tracy Zimmerman http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/11/proverbs-31-and-sobriety-for-women/comment-page-1/#comment-4026 Tracy Zimmerman Tue, 13 Dec 2011 10:58:48 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2324#comment-4026 This is a great site you have created. I was looking around my computer last night and found it. I'm also on WFS (women for sobriety) as I was in alot of trouble with alcohol a few years ago and although things are better, I want to be alcohol free. I am going to be alcohol free. Thank you for sharing. This is a great site you have created. I was looking around my computer last night and found it. I’m also on WFS (women for sobriety) as I was in alot of trouble with alcohol a few years ago and although things are better, I want to be alcohol free. I am going to be alcohol free. Thank you for sharing.

]]> Comment on Will I Lose My Friends If I Get Sober? by Madison http://recoveryprincess.com/index.php/2011/10/will-i-lose-my-friends-if-i-get-sober/comment-page-1/#comment-4025 Madison Sun, 11 Dec 2011 15:48:13 +0000 http://recoveryprincess.com/?p=2314#comment-4025 Hi Nancy, Embracing a new life in sobriety brings all kinds of things to light. Friends and the social aspect has always been a struggle for me in sobriety. Drinking was a part of my culture, my friends, family and everyone I knew drank for every reason and occasion, I certainly wasn't alone in my consumption habits, the problem for me was that I just couldn't handle it, call it a chemical imbalance, a personal weakness or an addictive personality or whatever but when I stopped drinking, my relationships changed as well. You are in the very early days of sobriety Nancy. The focus right now should be on you and how you are going to get through with a plan. Four years into my sobriety, my true friends are still in my sphere. My relationships have definitely taken a different priority in my life simply because I have had myself to pull through sobriety and learn to live again, that coupled with family makes it that way. I think though, the people who you have a deep bond too will always be in your life. Those who kind of fade away, well maybe that is the way it was meant to be? I think the biggest things that pulled me through the early days were reading, writing (journalling) long walks and exercise and also a "zero tolerance for alcohol policy" I read about this on the "Spiritual River" website and as soon as I heard it I just knew that I needed exactly that. I wouldn't worry about pushing people away. If you are struggling with alcohol problems then your focus needs to be on you and not other people. Don't discount proffessional help it is detrimental in sobriety. Good luck Nancy and keep reading and sharing! Hi Nancy,

Embracing a new life in sobriety brings all kinds of things to light. Friends and the social aspect has always been a struggle for me in sobriety. Drinking was a part of my culture, my friends, family and everyone I knew drank for every reason and occasion, I certainly wasn’t alone in my consumption habits, the problem for me was that I just couldn’t handle it, call it a chemical imbalance, a personal weakness or an addictive personality or whatever but when I stopped drinking, my relationships changed as well.

You are in the very early days of sobriety Nancy. The focus right now should be on you and how you are going to get through with a plan.

Four years into my sobriety, my true friends are still in my sphere. My relationships have definitely taken a different priority in my life simply because I have had myself to pull through sobriety and learn to live again, that coupled with family makes it that way. I think though, the people who you have a deep bond too will always be in your life. Those who kind of fade away, well maybe that is the way it was meant to be?

I think the biggest things that pulled me through the early days were reading, writing (journalling) long walks and exercise and also a “zero tolerance for alcohol policy” I read about this on the “Spiritual River” website and as soon as I heard it I just knew that I needed exactly that.

I wouldn’t worry about pushing people away. If you are struggling with alcohol problems then your focus needs to be on you and not other people.

Don’t discount proffessional help it is detrimental in sobriety.

Good luck Nancy and keep reading and sharing!

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